For couples, we believe being a couples therapist involves specialized training. Most of our therapists have advanced specialty in couples work and have studied with national leaders in the latest, most effective approaches. As a whole, our couples work tends to be very experiential, attachment-oriented, and rooted in an understanding of the brain and arousal states (such as trauma). Some of the old-school approaches, such as communication training, are less effective because they focus on the more verbal, rational parts of the brain. These parts of the brain, and all the skills we learned when we were calm and collected, go offline when we are very emotional or upset in relationships—in moments where one or both partner is either too aroused (highly emotional) or not aroused enough (emotionally frozen or shut-down).
There is wonderful research that healthy committed relationships can serve as a profound source of healing and growth. On the flip side, unhealthy relationships can do damage. It is important to be proactive when it comes to one’s partnership. Couples therapy does not need to be a last-ditch effort. It can be a space of exploration, a time to get to know your partner more deeply, share a bonding experience, and develop a mutual vision of your life together.
Whether your relationship is in crisis or you just have some things to work through that could be easier between you, we are here.